We’re back on with some new journaling topics, fresh out of the oven! Sorry these are a little bit late this time. I’ve been quite busy with lots of projects for a brighter future. I hope you forgive me. :) Today’s series is going to focus on ideas to write about for the months of April, May and June — check out the other three posts, part 1, part 2 and part 4, if you’re curious. I’m grateful to be serving up some inspiration towards your continued growth and development as the amazing human you are. Here goes:
April — Spring clean your mental closet
What do we think of when spring has sprung? Well, yes, bunnies, chicks and flowers and all that jazz, but I also think of spring cleaning. What better time than spring, with all that renewal than to let go of old baggage and start anew. Cleaning up clutter can be psychologically freeing as is. But what if we took that a step further and wrote down all the thoughts, ideas, beliefs and emotions that we’d like to be free of and clean of the “closet of our minds,” too?
Go ahead, I invite you to sit down, take 5 slow, deep breaths and allow whatever has been stirring around in your mind to come up. Write down the first 5 thoughts or images to come to your mind. These could be stale ideas, things that inspire you or anything in between. If a thought that you’re ready to be rid of arose, then write down the content of the thought and also how this thought has served you in the past (maybe a self-limiting belief kept you safe from feelings of failure and shame) and how you don’t need it anymore moving forward (maybe you’re strong enough now to take risks and experience the pain of plans sometimes not working out.)
If a thought that you want to perpetuate came up, great! Write down the content of that thought and make it nice and shiny by writing down specific actions you can take (or people you can surround yourself with) to continue to reinforce this idea in your life.
May — Minding our mothers
May is the month that we choose to celebrate our mothers (for those who have a mother or mother figure in their lives.) This day can be replete with fun and joy and meals out with their smiling moms, filling their arms with bouquets of flowers, cards and other gestures of appreciation. This day can also be fraught with anxiety, resentment, shame, anger or a confusing combination of both pleasant and unpleasant feelings.
Whatever this month brings for you, know that you’re not weird for it (most people don’t post their true feelings on Facebook along with brunch selfies!) and you are certainly not alone (we all have mommy issues of some sort!) This time, instead of just hiding out behind bottomless mimosas, let’s dig in. Take out a paper and pen, because it’s time to write mom a letter. But this is a letter you’re not actually going to give her (even if she’s still around.)
I want you to take a few moments to get quiet and still. Now I want you to write out everything you WISH you could say to your mom if there was no chance you could hurt her feelings by saying it. Let it all out. This may be a painful/difficult/tearful exercise for you. Next, I want you to write a letter back to yourself this time, from your mom, with everything you wish she could say to you in response to the letter…all the messages you’ve needed hear from her that for whatever reason she wasn’t able to provide to you. Now give yourself a really big hug. That was brave.
June — Thinking about dads
You may have guessed from the previous prompt that June’s idea would have to do with dads, due to Father’s Day occurring in this month. You are right! Get ready to think about your pop, or another father figure, if you have one. Go ahead and get cozy. Take your time. Be gentle with yourself. This is not easy.
I want you to take some time and think about what is means to be a father for you. You can let go of societal norms or what is conveyed in the media (especially because dads don’t tend to be well-portrayed, there!) What kinds of qualities and attributes does an ideal father have? What should one feel in the presence of their dad? What types of messages does a great dad pass on to their kids?
Now switch gears to writing down in what ways do you feel your own father met the mark in these areas? In what ways do you wish he had done better? Now think about how you want to raise your children and have them be raised by a partner (if you have one.) Conjure up the feelings that you want your kiddos to have in those one-on-one moments. Imagine the messages that you want to pass on to them. Write down what surfaces for you.
Congratulations. You just did some deep work towards your continued growth, healing and evolution as a conscious human being. Give yourself a nice pat on the back and say something really nice to yourself (you can steal one of the lines from your journal entries, if you need help.) I hope this activity was helpful for you on your journey. I know that journaling does tons for me. See you for our last installment in the series — July through September’s journaling blog post. Take good care and be well.
about the author
Hi! I'm Natalie. And my passion is helping people live more peaceful, meaningful lives. Through holistic therapy in Pasadena and here on the blog, my mission is to provide people with the support and tools they need to live their best life.